My name is Keri. I am trying to find some support for my significant other. S/he is almost 21, I am 19. We have been going out for about 3 months but have been friends (now best friends) for over a year. S/he is having some problems idenity wise. See, s/he does not idenitfy as a woman nor as a man. S/he is biologically female. S/he is not quite trans either. S/he feels s/he is alone. I don't know how to help her/him. Any surgestions?
I am looking for some help. My college GSA's meeting monday night is on the topic of homosexuality (and all others) in relgion. Just wanted to know of any bible passages in the bible and or other places (I am catholic, I only know so much) that mention it and different interpretations. I just thought of posting this now, but even after monday, I am curious to know because I am a strong Catholic as well as a bi-/pan-/a- sexual. So anything would be appriciated.
If anyone knows this man, please contact me. Leave a comment. If you know him or anything about him. I believe he lives in La Grande, Oregon but I'm not certain. See, I went to La Grande with some of my friends and went into this store called Sunflower Books and on the table was a stack of pictures saying "Harry Potter Party - Help Yourself" And I'm writing a book called Double Take and as I was going through the stack, I found this picture and fell in love with the idea of what kind of character he could be. I've named him Jake, but I think it would be fun to know something about the actual guy. I'm not looking for any personal info like address or last name. First name and personality are fine. I'm not a stalker.
And I apologize if that was supposed to be behind a cut. I'm just hoping that someone's gonna be scanning this page and it'll catch their eye if they know him.
i stupidly nominated myself for homecoming queen...just had to write that...
Tue, Aug. 23rd, 2005, 10:22 pm
Anything else you want us to know:Bisexual, pagan, liberal, sort of "goth"
This looked like a good community but I have a question. It was cool how you put a quote on the user info page, but you must realize that quoting from the bible and also involving something (even though it's constitutional) about the whole "creator" thing might put a few people off, as some people wanting to join this might be a bit offended...like me. sort of. well, i'm just saying you know.
but you all seem to talk openly about stuff here and i look forward to sharing some of these conversations. laterz..
Location: Birmingham Alabama
randome Facts: if anyoen every needs a friend to talk to im here for you!
This morning I donned my red shirt, the color we had agreed on, retrieved my sticker and cards, and participated in my first GSA event, the nation wide Day of Silence. And from the time the bell rang to the a little bit after school let out, in protest of harassment against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender students, I did not speak.
It was a frustrating experience at many points. Mocking comments from students, bribes to speak, a few attempts to steal information cards to participate simply so they didn’t have to speak in class (though the ones that weren’t serious about it quickly discarded them), teasing me in my silence, whining for me to remove my sticker so I could talk to them. I knew about the unbelievable amount of homophobia, intolerance, ignorance, and immaturity in our student population before this, but I was shocked anew at how childish my peers were about it. They seemed to gain an incomprehensible amount of pleasure from trying to get participants to speak, teasing them when they refused to.
But I was also pleased with how many teachers rebuked them, the amount of support I received from them, the number of classrooms designated as Safety Zones for the students being unbearably tormented for participating in the event. I was also surprised at the number of participants, initially and how many joined that were serious about it. Though people were relentless when we were separated, safety in numbers does seem to work, because next to no one approached us at our groups at lunch. It was an amazing feeling, walking down the hallways, seeing other participants, just having to smile, stand together and know that we’re all together for the same cause. So even if it didn’t seem to make much of a difference in the student body, it spoke volumes to me, though we said nothing at all.
I’m ashamed to admit that my reasons for not GSA were not only because I had wrestling practices and staying with 'M' because she either couldn’t go, forbidden by her mother, or she didn’t feel comfortable in there some days. Those were miniscule reasons. It was, despite the fact that the vast majority of my friends are in it, I was afraid. I had come out as bisexual somewhat earlier in the year, and was overwhelmed by the negativity that came along with it. So, I went straight back into denial, no pun intended, stating that I only said it to see how people would react, being honest only with my closest friends. I was afraid to join, because, as much as I like to think I’m a strong person, I couldn’t handle it. Even now, I’m still having to laugh off rumors of M and I ‘making out in the hallway every day’ (When did hugging become kissing? When did gothic begin to automatically translate into lesbian? Why are prep girls allowed to get away with the same innocent acts I’m tormented for?). I was afraid of going through it again. Generally I don’t care about what people say about me, but at the point in the year when I ‘came halfway out of the closet’ you could call it, I had almost no friends to speak of in the school yet, and people’s responses were too much from me. So I damn near ran screaming back into the closet, because despite knowing the fact that the friends I did have at the time were openly bi, they could take it. Sadly, I could not. So I stayed out of GSA to protect myself, not to mention the fact that for a while I was confused about my orientation myself.
But one of the positive things I achieved through today was discovering how many people are there for you, even if you don’t know it. For every person that teases you, tries to humiliate you, bring you down, there is at least one person who has gone through the same thing and understands, or supports you even if they haven’t. I spoke about the unbelievable amount of hatred that is directed towards gay, lesbian, and bisexual students at our school, or even those that are simply suspected to be such, to help a fellow participant understand ‘how you could be teased for being gay’, as she wasn’t aware of how often it happens. I spoke of the cries of dyke and faggot, the tormenting, the hitting of those that are allegedly non-heterosexual, the preaching of ‘you’re going to hell’. I didn’t say that much in actuality, but the response to it was more than I was expecting. I was encouraged in the smallest ways by the members of the club, but it still meant so much to me. And though I’m still in hiding about my sexual orientation, and will probably remain that way for some time, I’m not afraid anymore. I know that there’s a place I can go to for support now. It’s so surprising to me, though it’s been there the whole time.
Students seem to believe homo/bisexuality is a sickness. But the real disease is hatred, and there is an epidemic at SW. Not only tolerance, but acceptance is the cure. There’s not enough of that at SW, but I hope that’s something GSA can change in the future. It’s a little late in the year, and I don’t even know if there are any more meetings, but I’ve decided to join GSA. And if this was it for this year, then I’m joining next year, and remaining a member in the years to come. Some days it doesn’t seem like GSA does much, but there’s so much potential, and I hope I can do something about this problem at our school, about this underground witch-hunt of innocent students that just happen to be a little different. Because in the future there will be students just like me facing the same issues, and they’ll need somewhere to go too. And I hope I can help them do the same thing GSA’s done for me: Realize that there’s at least one place in this high school not-so-affectionately nicknamed as hell where they don’t have to be afraid anymore.
The long stretch for the withered twine
Utilizes all the energy in this cold, dark, human shell
Darkness is erased with the flicker of a cracckeded bulb
The jaundiced light only creating tension between the two worlds.
One, being the quiet clang of metal hangers brushing up against each other.
Through the thin divide of wood and hinges, a pile of dirty clothes lie astray
They lie alone, but are filled with the desire to connect and fold into one another.
Slowly, the hinges moan with years passed, and as the wood is disengaged,
the clothes are tumbled together.
The light dances upon the bundle, reveling new found shapes and creases.
We lay between the two, metal and fabric combined, however,
Cracked light casts deep shadows protecting us from the world, or the world from us.
...I was just feeling very closety last night.
Imagine a school where people are shunned for expressing expression for each other. If a boy and a girl should kiss in the hallway, every body seems to laugh and stare at them as the principal pulls them apart. "People call you names and look at you funny," said freshmen Sampson Jones.
If two people were to hold hands, it is not uncommon for others to yell and throw things at them. Other people give dirty looks and call out derogatory names.
At this school, gay or lesbian is the thing to be. Articles in the school newspaper that depict couples, depict only gay and lesbian couples. At prom, straight couples are prohibited from attending together. "People are trieng to be who they are and other people arent letting them," said senior Chelcee
This school has a small support club for straight students called the straight-gay alliance. However, many of the straight students are too intimidated by their peers to show up at such a place. "My school had an announcement about the club and most of the people in my class laughed at it." said Sophmore Jessica Sommers
Heterosexuality is so widely shunned upon at this school that many of the straight students just stay silent about their hetero tendacies and pretends to be gay. Some do this in fear of harrassment, bullying, social rejection, and violent reprecussions from their flamboyantly gay peers.
"When I realized I wasnt like all of my friends I was scared. I felt alone," said junior Sara Bishop. Every where you turn is two girls kissing, or two guys holding hands. Even the majority of their teachers are married to someone of the same sex, preeching the gospel of same sex relationships. The straight kid is ultimately left to feel alone and alienated.
These kids are even pressured by their own parents to be gay. Some are threatened, yelled at, and called names if suspected to be straight "When your parents find out and they say they dont want you around, its really hard," said Chelcee.
If you think this is discriminatinatory, rediculous, and wrong, try imagining a typical american high school thru the eyes of a gay or lesbian student. A gay or lesbian student has expreianced at least one, if not all of the scenarios as read above.
"Being gay in high school is not a fun job. If I could take a pill and just be straight it would make life so much easier," said "Tweedie"
Unfourtionately, for gay, lesbian, bi, and transgendered students, its not that simple. Most people dont choose to be gay or lesbian, just how most people dont choose to be straight.
"I didnt choose to be gay and I cant change the way I am just to make others happy," - Jessie K.
"Many people just dont understand what its like to be gay or lesbian unless they have experianced it themselves." -Tommy W.
This lack of outward perception can cause poor judgement in the actions of others who continuously shun gays and lesbians. "I came out to who I thought was my best friend and once she found out she wouldnt talk to me. Then she told a bunch of people at school and I had people comming up to me in the hallways screaming 'faggot'"; -- -The words an annonomous student.
Some students who were interviewed for this story stated physical violence has been inflicted upon them because of the way they are. Most of the straight students who were interviewed agree that they dont care about others sexual preferences. However, seven out of ten agreed that it is okay to ammend the U.S. Constitution to make it illegal for same sex couples to marry and deny same sex couples equal healthcare, social security, and tax benifits as non same sex couples.
"People make sexuality important. I really dont think it matters who you choose to love but people make it a big issue." -Jordan C.
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